by Niara » Tue Jul 13, 2010 6:35 am
Right-o then, it seems most folk are simply being so reactionary because of the legal grounds, and not wanting the whole project to get pounced on, and certainly fair enough.
For the record though, whatever the legalities the narrow-minded, stupidly backward countries' governements (America, I'm looking at you...), rape games /= actual people being raped or traumatised... drawings of multi-dicked she-demons /= surgically altered real-life fucking monsters, and drawings of juvenile forms engaged in sexual activty /= real children being hurt in any way. And I won't draw the comparison in regards to beastiality, because personally... I'll just say I've got a Border Collie, and he likes to do certain things to me after his morning run most mornings, and in most cases I wouldn't dream of telling him no.
As for the whole rape thing, Trunks... it's a really hazy area for me. Blessings of internet anonymity, I can say this, beuase no-one knows me, but, over the course of my life thus far, I've been in several situations which my friends whom I've told have all unanimously agreed were rapes, but in all bar one case, I don't think of them so, and I don't feel that they were, for me. I'll give you the most pointed example, to show where I stand. A couple of years ago, when I was perhaps a little over 20, I was out at a nightclub, and I was, shall we say, intending to have someone between my legs before night's end... So, I was cruising and socialising and prowling, I guess, and eventually picked out a guy that was to my tastes and let him know what I was thinking, and we went back to one of the empty rooms in the club.
I'm halfway through shucking off my top and slipping out of my bra when I see that three of this jerk's friends have followe dhim in, and locked the door behind them, so I back off, hands up and tell them that I'm seriously not up for that, and for them all to leave or I would, but it seemed like, by that point, they'd all gone selectively deaf to my voice. So, they all start to lay their hands on me, and this is what happens next: I do nothing. I let it happen.
I am a fit and healthy individual, I'm strong for my appearance, and I'm quite well trained the two different styles of martial art (aikido and judo), and well as an independant personalised fighting style I've developed for myself to fill in the gaps that those two leave. I don't drink, and therefor had not been that evening. It would have been a simple thing for me to escape that situation; I could easily have broken several bones in seeing them off, and likely would have broken at least one neck, probably two. But I dind't. Instead, I gave in, and let them have their way with my body until they were done and left me alone.
Now, everyone of my friends that I've told about this incident has said that I was most obviously, plainly, and unarguably raped... that there was no question in the matter, but I disagree... I don't think I was, in that case, and I don't feel like I was. I feel, rather, like I allowed it to happen; effectively, that I chose to allow it to happen, when I just as easily might not have. I could have prevented it, but I didn't try to, and thus it wasn't truly rape, to me.
It does, however, colour my standing; whenever I hear a story about a girl claiming rape, I look at it, and as often as not, I determine that the girl in question could quite easily prevented it from happening... and thereby lose my ability to feel sympathy for her. Perhaps I am horribly scarred, and that is the manifestation of it... but I don't think so.
So... is reluctant consent really rape? Is pressured consent really rape? In my mind, unless it becomes a forced affair (and that forcing doens't need to be physical, I admit), then no.
In the case of Krystal, here, it makes it hard to say in my mind: she is a capable and intelligent individual, and had other options available to her (but you know, that'd be no fun for us...). She opted to run with the path of least resistance, submitting with nary a whimper to their demands... so easily, in fact, that they might as well have been gentle requests, for the most part. As such, I feel like saying that she has decided to take this course as the means to achieving her end, and however much she isn't enjoying it, however unpleasant or downright painful, it stopped being rape the moment she stepped onto that path.
-Niara
P.S. If this post hasn't made it abundantly clear by this point, yes, I'm a female behind the keys here, so don't bother with the 'insensitive male pig' comments.
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